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Thursday, August 26, 2010
How would I cope with a staggering diagnosis? What would I say? What would I do? How would my family react? What reserves of strength would I have to draw upon to cope? What courage would I have to muster? I don't think I'd react with the courage and bravery this 26 year old has.... and I'm a 50 something adult, with years of knowledge and wisdom under my belt.
It was a tough week last week, with TWO 26 year old young women in the studio. Both facing some serious struggles, but I was humbled with the fortitude they both demonstrated. I kept thinking about my own girls, 24 and 26. I can't imagine the agony of their Mothers.... Having carried this beautiful thing for 9 months, giving birth, applying bandaids to skinned knees and soothing broken hearts....but cancer is one Boo-Boo, that you can't put a band-aid on. A Boo-Boo that's invisible and is trying to kill your beautiful baby and you'd do anything to take it away or take it on yourself. Where do these kids get this kind of courage and strength?
Heather A. is facing a tough battle. She spends a month at a time, away from her little boy, in the hospital undergoing chemotherapy and then re-building her immune system. Then she goes home for a short couple weeks and then starts all over again.... trying to amuse herself in her sterile hospital room, dreaming of the day when this terrible thing is gone and she can have her life back again. AND, she continues to concentrate on the positive....despite the constant poking, prodding and isolation.
Her smile is so beautiful and her eyes say so much. It's so unfortunate that she says she's experienced such stereotyping... just because she's young, people ASSUME that she's shaved her head to 'make a statement or be rebellious'.
"People say such cruel things... I've been accused of being a racist or part of some skin-head group and I even heard someone say that I'd pulled a 'Brittany'. I'm just not the typical face of cancer.... it's not common to see cancer in young people, so people make unfair judgements and say mean and cruel things. People are just so small-minded".
Cancer CAN and DOES strike at any age. Do we make assumptions? Are we small-minded? Do we have prejudices? Try to always assume the best about people. Give those we encounter the benefit of the doubt. Like Heather, concentrate on the 50% positive of the 50/50 chances we're given.
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